The Wonder Weeks. An amazing time for your baby (mentally + physically) but a brutal, exhausting time for mom & dad (mainly mom, especially if you’re breastfeeding!)
Hunter was 4 weeks old and gearing up to meet his Grandma & Grandpa (my wonderful mother & father-in-law) for the very first time. They were flying in from Ontario to finally meet their first grandchild; I can only imagine the anticipation they were feeling as they boarded that flight!
Not even 48 hours into the visit and it was like a switch went off with our super chilled out, cuddly, sleepy baby boy. All of a sudden, he was demanding my FULL, undivided attention. Twenty. Four. Hours. A. Day. What could have possibly happened in such a short span of time? Two short days ago, he only needed me every couple of hours for some milk but was perfectly content in anyone else’s arms as he slept the days away, just living the sweet, sweet baby life. Just like that, he was needing his mama in a way that was entirely new (and exhausting) for both him and I. After two days of his intense nonstop, cluster-feeding, I felt SO emotionally and physically rundown; how much longer would this go on for? More importantly, what on EARTH was going on with our precious babe? My sisters, both of which are loving mommas themselves, casually said “oh, he’s going through his first Wonder Week.” Ummm…a what?! Within two minutes, I had ordered the book The Wonder Weeks written by two geniuses Frans X. Plooij and Hetty Van De Rij and spent many hours researching these glorious, horrifying mental leaps.
traumatize bore you with all the details of Hunter’s first Wonder Week but needless to say, I was very excited once those harsh five days were up. I did everything I could to survive these long days that felt like they were never going to end, things I swore I would never do. Co-Sleeping? While not ideal for our family, was the ONLY way I was getting through these long nights that basically just consisted of me laying down in bed, nursing our sweet one as we both nodded on & off in between those very short feeding breaks. Putting myself on the back burner? Becoming a mom, I always thought I would make the time for myself each day no matter what; even if that meant soaking in a hot bath for 10 minutes each night. I am actually laughing out loud as I write this for two reasons; one) I couldn’t have been more wrong & two) I mustered up the courage to do this once towards the end of Hunter’s Wonder Week and it went horribly wrong. I wound up frantically leaving an acupuncture appointment and full-on sprinting home to help console our poor little peanut who was totally out of sorts.
We have since survived 3 more Wonder Weeks, two of which honestly didn’t even phase us at all. Some are much harder than others and from talking with other moms out there, many go totally unnoticed!
One thing I do know, is that I wish I had been somewhat mentally prepared and knowledgeable on The Wonder Weeks rather than experiencing it & frantically trying to figure out what the hell was going on. I mean, I obviously knew growth spurts happened frequently but I guess I just didn’t really know what that really meant for me (& peanut!) It’s super scary as a first-time mom when all of a sudden your easy-going baby needs to be hanging off of you 24 hours a day, so much so that your husband literally has to spoon feed you in bed as you nurse & you have to brush your teeth while wearing your wee one on your chest!
Wonder Week. Two terrifying yet amazing little words that are completely necessary for our thriving wee ones. While very tough on us mamas, they are even tougher on our little babes. We are the only ones that can help our little loves get through these difficult and challenging leaps & growth spurts.
Patience, support, love, and gratitude for our little man are what got me through our two toughest Wonder Weeks. What got you through yours, mamas? Were you aware of these so called, Wonder Weeks? I hope you were better prepared than I was! I would love to hear your experiences!
For new mommy’s and mommy’s-to-be, I
urge gently encourage you to order The Wonder Weeks book or better yet, download their app to get notifications on when a Wonder Week is coming your way.
As always, thank you so much for reading! xoxo